As Tarot readers, many of us have querents who ‘sleep around,’ getting frequent readings from a variety of readers or call us for every decision or turmoil they are experiencing. Such people may be’tarot addictive’ or co-dependent. I feel that discouraging this behavior is part of our job. Encouraging this behavior may be lucrative and even fun but not in the best interest of the querent.

Discouraging co-dependency for frequent readings can be as difficult as ‘tough love’ but ultimately serves us and our querent. When I started reading a querent called me every twenty eight days for a couple of years until I realized that her monthly hormones were causing her to freak out. Knowing that her body chemistry was causing her mind to focus on the negative was alleviated by directing her to a physician. Keeping a record of callers who abuse us can expose some of these mental and physical problems. We can direct our troublesome querents to professionals who are better able to diagnose and treat.

The desire for greater insight and assistance to meet the demands and turmoil of daily life or to make sense of it is healthy. However, some become so overwhelmed with such freedom that they prefer assistance. By allowing others to dictate, manipulate or use another is fraught with a whole new set of problems which can contribute to ones’ downfall and too many readings from too many readers can cause a multitude of problems:

• The need for intimacy and interest in one’s life….a paid friend
• Confusing and contradictory readings
• Financial – paying for removal of curses, cleansings, healings, etc.
• Following false direction, using one as a false guru
• Reliance on information that may not be accurate.
• Giving away one’s free will to make decisions from inner awareness
• Losing empowerment to make choices or decisions
• Limits a mature approach to life
• Setting the opportunity to be scammed

Different readers can also add their own elaborations to a readings which may not benefit the querent as their perceived psychic abilities may not be in integrity. Also different spreads may be too vague or not address the issue brought to the table. Sometimes the real issue may be hidden beneath the symptom which is the central focus. Only a very good reader can effectively and graciously communicate this.

Setting boundaries and empowering, teaching and educating ourselves about the human condition is being a responsible reader.